I want to communicate, but do I communicate?

I want to communicate, but do I communicate?
I want to communicate, but do I communicate?

How difficult it is sometimes to communicate. And yet how easy it is on numerous occasions. Surely you have ever wondered why it is stormy for you to accurately convey that clear thought you have in your head. You can't find words to express that emotion or feeling. Most likely, you will need to work on this skill to improve it and be satisfied when you make any speech because you will be sure to convey the information you intended. Do not suffer alone, we all experience the need to communicate effectively in any area of life.


Well, communication is inherently two-way, at least. It appeals to the need for someone to receive our message. Therefore, it is up to us to take into account who we are addressing, adapting the message when necessary, promoting actions that predispose the other to opt for a positive response towards us.

Whenever possible, practice assertiveness, an attitude somewhere between aggressive expression and inhibition. It is clear that this is not always possible and that, frequently, we find ourselves immersed in communication problems that we do not know how to solve. We will try, then, to clarify some doubts.

When we start the communicative act, we tend to focus on ourselves, on what we want to say andexpress, forgetting our receiver. This is a major impediment to effective and efficient communication. In addition, there are three factors that participate in this rupture of the connection and that are directly related to the communicative style and emotional states:

  • Not knowing each other well enough.
  • Not knowing our interlocutor well enough.
  • Maintaining a defective attitude to get our message received.

The management of these factors must be simultaneous to seal communication fissures. So, worry about discovering the other's profile and getting closer to him as a peer, promoting the ability to discern what is appropriate or not to say at a given moment.

There are constant situations in which, being bearers of the truth, communication breaks down due to not having selected the correct forms of verbal and/or non-verbal language. In hindsight, you feel angry for not having known how to apply the appropriate strategies. Work on this weakness and you will get more out of your interactions. It will be of great help to you to write down the situations in which failures have occurred in this regard, propose the pertinent modifications and put them into practice as soon as the opportunity arises.

Life overloads us with emotions that we don't usually channel correctly. One of the expected effects is to dump all that tension on the other. At the moment that impulsiveness governs communication, we simply provoke the other, normally, in a negative sense. Imagine if the receiver reacts the same way. Then the conflict is assured.

Do not let the prejudices towards some types of people filter your communicative acts, you will miss the opportunity to acquire teachings that will enrich you in some way.

In short, it assumes that the communication is dynamic in nature. Therefore, we invite you to exercise your ability to observe to try to understand the other and be able to adapt to their conditions. The great revelation is that knowing how to communicate is learned, exercised, and perfected. It's worth the effort, the fruits sprout from the first try.

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