The normal thing among human beings is, almost instinctively, the search for happiness. But the reality is that in our western world we are taking the wrong path to achieve this happiness since we think that the more things we have, the more people we love and love us and the better we have in the circumstances of our lives, the happier we will be.
This is a delusion that can be clearly unmasked when we reflect a little, since we immediately realize that happiness cannot be based on external things, objects, money, people or circumstances because so quickly as they come, so quickly they go. If we try to fill our emptiness with things from the outside by clinging to them sooner or later, when they disappear from our lives, the apparent happiness that we had will not only disappear but problems of depression, anxieties, stress, etc. will appear.
We have already named the key word that leads us to write this article, attachment. Attachment is one of the biggest causes of unhappiness among us human beings. When we get attached to that job that we like so much and they fire us, the world falls on us, when we get attached to that person we love so much and leaves us, betrays us or dies, we fall into the deepest desolation and depression, when we get attached to that late model bikewe finally managed to buy it and it was stolen from us, a great desperation invaded us.
This path cannot be that of happiness. Obviously we are not saying that we should not have possessions, nor love our loved ones, fall in love and get married, work to have money. But we must change our psychological and emotional attitude to this so that we can find the true path to happiness. It is about achieving a state of detachment towards what surrounds us and, apparently, belongs to us in such a way that the pain when it disappears from our lives is much less because the basis of our happiness does not depend on of those possessions or loved ones but of our inner we alth that is beyond the attachment to a car or money.
We must realize, as many philosophies and religions such as Buddhism tell us, that in this life we are passing through and that we came with nothing and with nothing we are going to leave, therefore, it is better to live as if we had nothing, with that understanding, even though we live surrounded by everything we need and the people who love us, it is the best way to avoid feeling that pain and misunderstanding when those things or people disappear.
We repeat, it is not about giving up the world and what it offers us, the people we love or can love, but the feeling of attachment to them, which is what is going to make us suffer when we suffer loss and let's be sure that sooner or later we go through that loss of something or someone to which we are attached.