2023 Author: Jake Johnson | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-24 23:11
How are insecurity and low self-esteem related? and why is it a topic always current and necessary to address?
If we focus on the simple relationships between these terms love (esteem) is what enables construction, the link to life, trust and security.
Through the first bonds, love, in that exchange, enables and develops self-esteem and security.
To a young child, being in a bond of love and support gives him a sense of security. It is literally thanks to that support that it can lay the foundations, perceive the solidity that contains it in order to grow.
Love and safety have a lot to do with each other. love, understood as a genuine capacity for emotional support and disposition. You can love but not know how to transmit or demonstrate that love. You can love but have your mind and emotions around other issues that prevent that love from being transmitted correctly.
If that emotional restraint in childhood is perceived as insecure or inconsistent, the sense of security (if it ever existed) is lost
There can be a feeling of insecurity towards oneself and towards the environment and, in many cases, a perception that both physical and mental survival is in danger.
We understand, then, that laSelf-esteem is built and made possible from a bond, which establishes that possibility of love towards oneself and towards others and, at the same time, is an enabler of security: confidence in one's own, confidence that the world is a safe place.
Low self-esteem is directly associated with insecurity. Both drive the person to require constant external validation in order to be subjectively enabled. In many cases, this low self-esteem is manifested through self-boycotts, and insecurity through recurrent doubts and a perception that everything that is done is ugly, bad or insufficient.
The opinion of others becomes essential, and everything built can fall to the ground just for having received a criticism or a return contrary to what was expected
In many cases, this low self-esteem produces, as a compensation, personalities that appear very secure, arrogant and arrogant. Who reiterate over and over again all their achievements and abilities. That reiteration can be read as an attempt to convince themselves of something they are not at all sure about.
Self-esteem is built. And it is always built in bond. Disarming previous structures and allowing gradual validation, acceptance of the different parts of the personality and recognition of potentialities.
Self-esteem does not imply forming ideas far from reality. That is, believing that one is capable of anything, at any cost and at anyway. This does not allow the necessary empowerment to be able to tolerate frustration, which is essential in developing self-esteem.
In therapy many times, through transference, a link is made possible that enables and develops these aspects. Allowing the person to unfold thanks to the encounter of a safe ground, of containment and anchorage.
The issue of self-esteem is always current, because the competitive society of which we are a part, a society of exposure and comparison, hinders he althy development in this regard.
Many insecurities arise when going out into the world, having to build one's own and validate it. That is why it is so necessary to work on these aspects, to allow the development of a firmer position from which to build and grow.
