2023 Author: Jake Johnson | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-05-24 23:11
One of the events that has had and still has the most manifestation during this quarantine is separation, in the sphere of a couple.
Separation, at this time, is very difficult to cope with, because the support network that usually functions as support after the breakup (leisure activities, meetings and outings with friends), is just restricted.
At the same time, the factors that predispose couples to decide to separate have increased : tensions and stress associated with economic and job instability, feelings of helplessness or vulnerability that require changes in the position of the members of the couple, coexistence conflicts, individual emotional crises, psychopathological symptoms, difficulties associated with distance and restricted encounterstypical of couples who do not live together, among many others.
The quarantine has placed us on a different plane, demanding changes in structure and redefinition, in all areas, but fundamentally in terms of links. Thus, if it was intended to continue exactly with the previous modality, whatever the specific case of that couple, difficulties would arise.
As individuals, and also as linked beings, we are presented with the challenge of adapting to a greater or lesser extent to the circumstances that arise. For this, initiallyit's important to accept uncertainty, fear, and a sense of vulnerability. Accept that we are going through a big change and that this will to some extent destabilize our pre-existing ways.
In a second moment we will be able to evaluate what movements we will have to face in order to cope with what happens to us.
In terms of relationships this is sometimes difficult.
Being able to calibrate our exchanges, and the different realities, accepting that this event can have a different impact on the other, in which internal issues that differ from our own are mobilized, is not easy
This implies the need for empathy and the intervention or greater presence of he althy modes of communication, especially in relation to emotions.
As we all go through the pandemic, it is difficult to have the energy available to be able to make these position changes, which can easily lead to fatigue and frustration.
Faced with this, many times separation appears as the most appropriate response. In this scenario, couples face their own challenges, having the opportunity to evaluate which it is the own response and that of the other in difficult situations and to what extent the desire to be together is still present.
Moments of global crisis imply individual crises. Singular stories are largely affected by general conditions, being propitious grounds for movements ofreevaluation and redirection. Many times the reflections of a crisis are those that make it possible to make visible unresolved or conflictive aspects that remained hidden.
It is interesting to go through these turning points, considering them a possibility of reviewing and rethinking what we really want. Sometimes it is a restructuring of the couple and sometimes Sometimes it's a separation.
It is essential that we attend to the maintenance of support networks, which in this case differ from those that we could have deployed in times prior to the pandemic.
