The creation of one's own space

The creation of one's own space
The creation of one's own space

Symbolically the space where we live represents at some point our own identity.

Frequently, being part of a family makes it difficult to build your own space,that somehow expresses our likes and interests.


It is very typical to do it during the process teenager: fill posters the walls and transformour space as we change.

This concept, of own space, is often relegated or underestimated. But from a psychological point of view it is an act extremely important.

The creation of outer space in eastern philosophy represents the construction of one's own internal space.

The limits in the outer spaces, the differences between the belongings of one and of another and the guarantee of a certain privacy, are reproduced in psychic boundaries. Greater knowledge of one's mechanisms, defensesand older identity feeling.

Allows us to recognize more clearly which are our ideas and thoughts and which belong to others.

This is part of the process of individuation. The distinction of what belongs to us and what does not, helps us to shapeour own personality.

Being able to carry out this process correctly in adolescence allows it to ideally begin at a stage that lends itself to this purpose, because if it is carried out properly, it rivals with parental authority and becomes put into questioning many aspects of upbringing and parental choices that were previously incorporated as unique and absolute.

From there, in the best of cases, one manages to differentiate what aspects of what has been learned and inherited are wanted to be preserved and what things change or face differently.

The limitations of the space in which we live should not prevent us from creating our own.

Find a nook, a small room, even a desk and give it aown imprint. Choose what colors, what objects to put and take advantage of that space to do activities of enjoyment.

Through this selection we are recognizing what identifies us. And the fact of expressing it in a space, drives us to reaffirm it.

Self-space does not exist by itself. It is only achieved through a subjectively sustained creative process.

It has to be conceived symbolically. Regardless of whether the place we live in is rented, or belongs to someone else, even if we are leading a nomadic life, traveling and moving from one side to the other and we do not feel rooted in any place, or if we have our homeaway.

Even in these cases, a small symbol or personal imprint will allow us to feel that we own that space

cio that we are inhabiting, albeit temporarily.

That grab gives us a base where anchor.

Just as the adolescent needs to take root in his history and his genealogy to project himself into the future, in the same way we need a rooting, a place of reference, identifier and creative, that allows us to unfold and project ourselves from there.

A place created by oneself, no matter how small, allows us to unfold creatively much more than inhabiting spaces that we feel are all designed and created by others, or inherited from automatically.

Psychology must recognize in these daily acts, the valuable tools that imply great help for such complex psychic processes. The independence and the construction of subjectivity, are not easy tasks, and these little big symbols drive and reinforce them.

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