Fear of confrontation

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Fear of confrontation
Fear of confrontation

The fear of confrontation implies the repeated avoidance of conflict in the bond with others. People who experience it try by all possible means to resolve, calm down or avoid situations that could trigger fights or discussions, trying to minimize or annul the conflict

In the background of this fear there is a multiplicity of possible causes and ways of approaching it. We can initially think about what the conflict would mean for that person. As we already know, in Psychology, nothing can be asserted in a universal and exact way. As much as there are patterns or shared characteristics, each individual manifests them in their own uniqueness, so that general statements cannot be made. Much less with respect to fears, since, in general, they have a very direct association with aspects of personal life.


The fear of confrontation in a person who has lived a large part of her life witnessing situations of violence, for example, takes on a different bias than if it were present in someone who has not experienced such situations. And these factors of one's own experience are essential to understand the background

We could think that confrontation as such always implies some risk and some possibility of rupture. Here you can unify the fear of abandonment, the loss of the other's love, loneliness and the fear of one's own aggressiveness.

Many individuals who are calculating and strive to control their behaviors excessively may fear putting themselves in situations where they feel they may lose that control, becoming angry or letting emotions break out violent. It usually happens, moreover, that the more the person tries to control the aggressive, taking excessive care of his forms and manners and being from every point of view "correct" the greater repression there will be around his most aggressive aspects and with greater fury they will come to light when they do. So, for these people, who put so much effort into being kind and calm, confrontational situations imply an enormous risk, the one that can make them stand out, letting out to that part of you they hope to keep hidden.

In other cases like the one mentioned initially, the anguish in the face of fights and arguments that may bring to mind unpleasant memories, is intended to be avoided above all else. And consequently, the potential conflict is avoided altogether.

Another underlying situation could be the fear of being attacked, violated or harmed by another, both physically and verbally. The danger that this implies and the difficulty in defending oneself in the event that this is the case mobilize the individual to avoid the conflict.

The avoidance of conflict or confrontation usually has a correlate, which is that conflicts appear the same and in many of these cases, magnified.

IEven if all efforts in the world are made to prevent it, theconflict exists, confrontation will appear sooner or later.

Knowing dealing with conflict and differences is a way of learning to live with others. Necessarily in some contexts the conflict will appear and in general it is usually these encounters that make possible the change or the passage to a new instance.

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